Where Time Stands Still

I am a husband, father and above all myself. You may too, perhaps. And there are wives, mothers and women.

Let us talk about being a father. Or being a mother. Being a man, let me tell you about being a father.

I became a father when I am blessed with 'my' child. Suddenly I saw myself turning 'selfish' and 'possessive'. My wife too became so. That is how family is.

Time does not stop for me there. Neither it does stop for others. But I remain a father till the innings are over.

When you look back you feel a secret pleasure in being possessive of your child.
You become possessive because you love them. It is man's nature to own everything he or she loves.

When you look forward you might feel disappointed. Because your children grow into adulthood and slowly become less attached or less imposing as they were used to. You wonder what happened to your love towards them. It is again, because you remain a father to them.

So being a father or mother can be both happy and disappointing as well, in terms of your love to your children. There was a point in Time they loved you, attached to you more than what they do as they grow up. That point of time would not return back to sooth your heart.

And mind you, there is another point of Time in every one's life to discard everything they thought precious: love, possessiveness, affection, attachment and all the feeling parents had had when their kids were small and dependent on you. But the children do love you. Don't forget that.

The act of renunciation of your explicit love and possessiveness will take you far ahead in life in beating disappointment. It will help you live a blood-pressure-free life. I have seen many mothers and fathers too lament over the plight of their kids as they grow day by day.

The next-generation kids of ours doing a favor to us. It is in fact a blessing in disguise. They help us live tension-free for the rest of our life, as soon as they become their own. They can manage themselves. They do not need our support physically anymore. To day they are kings and queens in their own world. They eat the food we never might have tasted in our life when we were of their age.

Where do they go? they also go to the same destination as we are. So don't worry about them. Just keep a watch over them. If you were kind enough with them, they still feel your unseen protection behind them.

Being free now, we have more time now to brood about them. We have more time to do things we seldom did in the past. make use of all the time you have. It is good both for you and your kids.